Anxiety Disorders Manifesting Due To Childhood Environment

During those early years of playing professional tennis, I was extremely lonely and became home-sick quickly, but there was always a voice in the back of my head that told me to keep going. I would later in life figure out that those extreme struggles, those close battles that I lost and those grueling days of not having the money to sleep in a normal bed would all contribute to the person I would soon become (post anxiety disorder). Problems really are a sign of life, and we all deal with them on a daily basis, but back then during the first few years of high level tennis I didn’t handle my problems very well, and they definitely affected me on the tennis court.

In tennis, proper repetition is the key to mastering a skill, and the same goes for living a life filled with over worry, constant anxiety and panic attacks. Those early years filled my mind with all the things that weren’t right in my life, like why my parents didn’t work harder so I could afford what all the other tennis players had better tennis racquets, some proper meals during tournaments or maybe a coach. It was a perfect setting to manifest my generalized anxiety disorder that came later in life. “What’s wrong” would constantly follow me on and off the court, and “what’s right” was rarely if ever noticed. Through the repetition of negative thoughts, I drove myself crazy on the tennis court. For example, if I was winning a tennis match by the score of 6-0, was up 5-0 in the second set and was one game away from clinching the win, but then if I would turn around and lose that game, I immediately let myself have it verbally and many times physically throwing my racquet to places racquets shouldn’t go (there are still many of my racquets stuck in trees around the world, I can assure you that). It was no surprise that I brought the same negative beliefs I built up on the court, to my off the court life and the cycle over generalized anxiety that led to my extremely overly sensitized nerves, eventually led to becoming ‘clinically’ depressed.

Jimmy Connors was one of the best to ever play the game and a true inspiration to me growing up. He said “I didn’t lose the tennis match, I just simply ran out of time.” Jimmy believed that tennis was about solving problems and that if he had more time he would have been able to solve the problem he was facing on the tennis court and eventually come out the victor, unlike my father who was too stubborn to accept he was the problem in the family and took no steps to try and solve them, I felt free and was driven to succeed from that moment on, you live you learn.

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The Path to Self-Empowerment

Understanding What Self-Empowerment Means

Before we begin working on obtaining, maintaining and building on our own sense of self-empowerment, we must first know exactly what it is and what it means. Self-empowerment is the strength and confidence to express oneself in the truest of ways to oneself. Which means that one will express their soul and not their ego/spirit (attitude) in place of the soul.

This does not include the falsehoods of imitating the things you wish you could be like or feel you are deserving of being seen as. The popular methods work but only on a superficial level (i.e., temporarily) and instead feed the very thing that inhibits one’s sense of self-empowerment to begin with. Thereby making it worse in the end and brings about the “doomed to fail from the start” situation (while the person who sold you such methods sits pretty in profits).

Components of Self-Empowerment

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7 Little Known Panic Attack Cure Tips

Don’t you know that anxiety and panic attacks are often misdiagnosed? And worse, some (not all) physicians would automatically reach out for the prescription pad. They will get you on a chemical train right away and send you on your way.

Some symptoms of panic attacks mimic other biological issues like hypothyroidism, hypoglycemia, mitral valve prolapsed and a host of other illnesses. It is too soon to deal with panic attacks with medicines without undergoing a battery of tests first.

Also many people believe that anxiety and panic attacks are behavioral conditions. It can only be treated successfully with changing thinking-patterns, reinforcing positive thoughts, adopting a healthy lifestyle and not treating it with a cocktail of drugs.

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Why Over Thinking Is a Mind Killer

Let me explain. To eliminate the problem of over thinking doesn’t mean that you have to stop thinking! It also doesn’t mean that you should put any less mental efforts into the things that you do.

The problem with over thinking occurs when people run over the same old thought again and again. If we get caught up in the same thought loops, running them over and over, we think too much, we over think a problem or situation and get nowhere.

As a rule, most people think 90% of the same thoughts every single day. What you thought about yesterday, will be the same things you think today. What you think about today, will be the same things you will think about tomorrow.

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How To Choose The Best Psychologist For You

Have you recently felt stressed out, tired, and run down? Have you worked hard to overcome problems, only to notice they feel insurmountable and that they never seem to get better? Today’s working world can be stressful and overwhelming, and coupled with other common issues–such as children, family, and debt–it’s not unusual to feel as though the stress just won’t go away.

While many are quick to head to the doctor to address physical issues, too few know that high levels of stress can lead to physical ailments. And even fewer take steps to routinely check their mental health or even take care of issues that have been nagging them. Your mind is a powerful instrument, but it too can get run down, similar to overworking a muscle. This is why more and more Canadians today are researching how to find the right psychologist for them, so they can be proactive about their mental health, allowing them to be active, happy, and filled with life throughout their years.

First, one must ask what a psychologist is. Not to be confused with psychiatrist, a psychologist provides counseling and therapy but cannot usually prescribe a type of medicine. A psychiatrist often has a degree in medicine, but a psychologist will have a doctorate in counseling and therapy, and often must pass regulations on top of this. They work to help people understand their thoughts, feelings and emotions, and often help people work through them to either change them or modify their outlook. As all counseling and psychotherapy is a joint effort between patient and psychologist, any good psychologist works hard to create a comfortable, supportive setting and relationship between themselves and the patient.

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